Starting with Proverbs 17:15. He that justifieth the wicked, and he that condemneth the just, even they both are abomination to the LORD.
When your child, regardless of age, starts down a path in life that you know, whether from experience or Scriptures, leads toward that darker side of humanity and those vices which lead to destruction, I think it is our responsibility to try and consuel or reprove said child in those decisions.
Following dreams or trying to improve onesself isn’t what I’m referring to. When one approvingly nods at sinfulness with a wink and a smile, then trying to defend that wicked behavior is what I’m talking about.
In trying to talk with my youngest these Scriptures come to mind. Proverbs 4:13. Take fast hold of instruction; let her not go: keep her; for she is thy life.
14. Enter not into the path of the wicked, and go not in the way of evil men.
15. Avoid it, pass not by it, turn from it, and pass away.
16. For they sleep not, except they have done mischief; and their sleep is taken away, unless they cause some to fall.
17. For they eat the bread of wickedness, and drink the wine of violence.
18. But the path of the just is as the shining light, that shineth more and more unto the perfect day.
I know you can only say so much and hope the Lord plants a seed there to grow, hoping at some point your child will see the wisdom you’re trying to impart. Although watching or knowing a certain path is being taken it still bothers the mind of a parent.
In such events, with some, fingers are pointed, the blame game begins, words are usually exchanged and sometimes that old tongue causes more harm than good. Wisdom can, at times seem hidden, when stupidity rears its ugly head, but Scriptures and the Lord do not change, their Wisdom is Divine and destroys all of our humanly devised excuses.
I’ve been told to hate sin but to love the sinner. All good there but in today’s society that’s interpreted as not having a right to mention anything about morality or sin or righteousness. In the west all things moral have become relative or either situational, nothing is written in the proverbial stone. I understand Jesus told the harlot brought before Him to be stoned was told by the Savior Himself about the accusation against her, in John 8:10. When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?
11. She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.
Jesus explained that with this woman, at this particular time, He neither accused her, He told her expressly to go and sin no more. He didn’t condem her then and told her to go and sin no more. He didn’t try and cover the fact that she sinned, He knew sins make themselves known at some point in a person’s life and those same sins are enough to accuse a person of wrongdoing. Those who brought her before Him knew the Law, they lived it to the letter without a heart felt sense of mercy. Her accusers knew what the penalty was for that specific sin and tried to tempt the Savior. All failing to an Old Testament axiom quoted by Jesus in Matthew 9:13. But go ye and learn what that meaneth, I will have mercy, and not sacrifice: for I am not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.
Here Jesus fulfills this by releasing the woman brought before Him. Condemnation is for those who in rejecting GOD’s love, given through Jesus, reject that Love and continue in sin. If the woman before Jesus would have spit on Him and returned to her lovers home things may have been recorded a little differently, but she left with the express knowledge that her life was spared and she was not to return to continue in sin.
With our children, talking to them about life choices referencing Scripture hoping for wisdom, in my mind, doesn’t constitute trying to shove something down ones throat. Mentioning sin isn’t judging in the perverted sense it’s understood today in the west. Trying to consuel a child about sin nowadays seems like an intolerable crime of mind and soul, even when it’s being done out of love.
Just as GOD loves HIS children and tries correcting them, we too are suppose to love and try and correct our children.
Then there’s that time when you just have to step back and let your children reap what they’ve sown. Thinking to yourself, sometimes you just have to wonder….